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2011年10月10日月曜日

Types of Pregnancy Loss

Chemical Pregnancy

Posted on July 27, 2011 by Heidi Faith

If you have begun to miscarry, and hadn’t yet been able to hear your baby’s heartbeat with a doppler, your doctor might have said that you are having a chemical pregnancy.

This means that it’s a very early miscarriage.

This very early miscarriage–or the name of it–doesn’t make your baby any less real. At 5 weeks gestation, just about the time you may have found out that you were pregnant, your baby was about the size of a sesame seed. And, at 5 weeks gestation, your tiny baby’s heart has already begun to beat. It’s just too small to be heard on a Doppler.

While identifying your baby at this stage is probably just not going to happen, because of everything that is delivered during the miscarriage, including uterine lining and lots of blood, your baby is real. Your feelings about your baby are real.

Ectopic Pregnancy

Posted on July 25, 2011 by Heidi Faith

An ectopic pregnancy means that your baby has attached itself to an area outside of the uterus rather than inside your actual uterus. This situation can be fatal to the mother unless the pregnancy ends as quickly as possible.

This can be a very heartwrenching situation for a mother, who may mistakenly believe that she needs to have an “elective abortion”. In an elective abortion, a mother electively chooses to terminate her pregnancy-despite the knowledge that the baby most probably would go on to develop through a full term pregnancy, and have a live birth. In an ectopic pregnancy, the very high probability of the both the baby dying and the mother dying, make delivering the baby as quickly as possible a necessity.

2011年6月27日月曜日

© The Self-relaxation Practice with Shikyu-chan

Masato TAKEUCHI, Tatiana A. ROMANOVA

A touch sensitivity or tactition it is the first among fife life sensations what an embryo of 12 weeks old obtains in the development progress. That meant each of us had the very first experience to communicate with the world by touching the inner uterus wall. Then we had the first response from the world by being touched back. Feeling the uterus wall discovers for us that there is exists the World and we realized that stay here not alone.

Physiology of touch-relaxation effect (see more)

When somebody touches us, there's pressure pushing on the skin at the point of contact. And just under the skin are pressure receptors called "Pacinian corpuscles. They receive pressure stimulation, and the pressure receptors send a signal to the brain. A touch activates the brain’s orbitofrontal cortex, which is linked to feelings of reward and compassion. Touch signals safety and trust, it soothes. Basic warm touch calms cardiovascular stress. It activates the body’s vagus nerve (n. vagus), one of the 12 cranial nerves in the brain, which in turn slows the heart and decreases the production of stress hormones including cortisol (hydrocortisone). The same time it triggers release of oxytocin, AKA “the love hormone” or "cuddle hormone", what makes feel more trusting and connected.(Dr. Dacher Keltner, Dr. Matt Hertenstein and Dr.Tiffany Field).

Why to hold something is good for relaxation?

When we touch something it also “touches” us. Our body is balancing a temperature with something or someone during holding or hugging it. Then the phenomenal effect arises: our spatial sensation change and our inner space increase. Now “we” are bigger on the size of the subject or object that we interact with. The walls of our private box move aside and we are getting opener to the Universe.

A benefit of this practice is an ability to be less vulnerable, more adoptable and accept easier any hard situations what we face each day. The touch relaxation practice turns us from a “hard nut” what can be crushed down by any powerful blow, to a “soft ball”, what just reflect it and back to previous condition very next time.

We recommend the Self-relaxation Practice with Shikyu-chan © for any people under any life circumstances.

If you are a hard-working man or business-woman, busy housewife and mother, to-mush-learning student and stay by yourself grandparent; you are far away from your close person and relative, you feel lonely – © The Self-relaxation Practice with Shikyu-chan is match to you.

If you are pregnant, pick Shikyu-chan yourself or ask you doctor or midwife how to practice with.

Obstetricians, midwifes and nurses may suggest
© The Self-relaxation Practice with
Shikyu-chan for:

1. pregnant women, it helps them to develop connection to their baby. To activate a touch sensation helps to raise a positive feeling for baby’s movement into the womb. That practice establishes inner communication in the way mother-baby without an interruption from external world. A flow of contradictory Information will not able to put pregnant woman to worry and panic condition;

2. women in labor, it helps them to keep their mind under control during the labor pain, reminds them to keep doing their “work”. Holding the Shikyu-chan imitates for woman in labor her partner’s hand, what is really supportive in that hard time;

3. women after delivery, it help to feel not lonely. During 10 months of pregnancy women was a center of people attention and support, then, after her baby was born, all o them sifted their sights to newborn infant and there are no one hold her hand and share kindness with. © The Self-relaxation Practice with Shikyu-chan simply can give her to feel physical touch and shrink lonely feeling.

4. woman who is going to or trying to get pregnant for while as an infertility treatment method.

Caregivers may suggest © The Self-relaxation Practice with Shikyu-chan for people in grief after lost their loved one, patient who suffer with pain and in termination stage. In all of these physical and mental conditions to feel someone’s “hand” in own palm is very supportive.

How to practice

There is no any especial way to practice. Just softly squeeze the Shikyu-chan in your palm for 30 – 60 minutes. During this time try do not think about anything in particular.

Some people who practice the Self-relaxation with Shikyu-chan image themselves a womb what embraces and accepts of fragile embryo – Shikyu-chan.

2011年6月7日火曜日

Evidence That Little Touches Do Mean So Much

By BENEDICT CAREY

Published: February 22, 2010

Psychologists have long studied the grunts and winks of nonverbal communication, the vocal tones and facial expressions that carry emotion. A warm tone of voice, a hostile stare — both have the same meaning in Terre Haute or Timbuktu, and are among dozens of signals that form a universal human vocabulary.

But in recent years some researchers have begun to focus on a different, often more subtle kind of wordless communication: physical contact. Momentary touches, they say — whether an exuberant high five, a warm hand on the shoulder, or a creepy touch to the arm — can communicate an even wider range of emotion than gestures or expressions, and sometimes do so more quickly and accurately than words.

“It is the first language we learn,” said Dacher Keltner, a professor of psychology at the University of California, Berkeley, and the author of “Born to Be Good: The Science of a Meaningful Life” (Norton, 2009), and remains, he said, “our richest means of emotional expression” throughout life.

The evidence that such messages can lead to clear, almost immediate changes in how people think and behave is accumulating fast.

Students who received a supportive touch on the back or arm from a teacher were nearly twice as likely to volunteer in class as those who did not, studies have found.

A sympathetic touch from a doctor leaves people with the impression that the visit lasted twice as long, compared with estimates from people who were untouched.

Research by Tiffany Field of the Touch Research Institute in Miami has found that a massage from a loved one can not only ease pain but also soothe depression and strengthen a relationship.

In a series of experiments led by Matthew Hertenstein, a psychologist at DePauw University in Indiana, volunteers tried to communicate a list of emotions by touching a blindfolded stranger. The participants were able to communicate eight distinct emotions, from gratitude to disgust to love, some with about 70 percent accuracy.

“We used to think that touch only served to intensify communicated emotions,” Dr. Hertenstein said. Now it turns out to be “a much more differentiated signaling system than we had imagined.”

To see whether a rich vocabulary of supportive touch is in fact related to performance, scientists at Berkeley recently analyzed interactions in one of the most physically expressive arenas on earth: professional basketball. Michael W. Kraus led a research team that coded every bump, hug and high five in a single game played by each team in the National Basketball Association early last season.

In a paper due out this year in the journal Emotion, Mr. Kraus and his co-authors, Cassy Huang and Dr. Keltner, report that with a few exceptions, good teams tended to be touchier than bad ones. The most touch-bonded teams were the Boston Celtics and the Los Angeles Lakers, currently two of the league’s top teams; at the bottom were the mediocre Sacramento Kings and Charlotte Bobcats.

The same was true, more or less, for players. The touchiest player was Kevin Garnett, the Celtics’ star big man, followed by star forwards Chris Bosh of the Toronto Raptors and Carlos Boozer of the Utah Jazz. “Within 600 milliseconds of shooting a free throw, Garnett has reached out and touched four guys,” Dr. Keltner said.To correct for the possibility that the better teams touch more often simply because they are winning, the researchers rated performance based not on points or victories but on a sophisticated measure of how efficiently players and teams managed the ball — their ratio of assists to giveaways, for example. And even after the high expectations surrounding the more talented teams were taken into account, the correlation persisted. Players who made contact with teammates most consistently and longest tended to rate highest on measures of performance, and the teams with those players seemed to get the most out of their talent.

The study fell short of showing that touch caused the better performance, Dr. Kraus acknowledged. “We still have to test this in a controlled lab environment,” he said.

If a high five or an equivalent can in fact enhance performance, on the field or in the office, that may be because it reduces stress. A warm touch seems to set off the release of oxytocin, a hormone that helps create a sensation of trust, and to reduce levels of the stress hormone cortisol.

In the brain, prefrontal areas, which help regulate emotion, can relax, freeing them for another of their primary purposes: problem solving. In effect, the body interprets a supportive touch as “I’ll share the load.”

“We think that humans build relationships precisely for this reason, to distribute problem solving across brains,” said James A. Coan, a a psychologist at the University of Virginia. “We are wired to literally share the processing load, and this is the signal we’re getting when we receive support through touch.”

The same is certainly true of partnerships, and especially the romantic kind, psychologists say. In a recent experiment, researchers led by Christopher Oveis of Harvard conducted five-minute interviews with 69 couples, prompting each pair to discuss difficult periods in their relationship.The investigators scored the frequency and length of touching that each couple, seated side by side, engaged in. In an interview, Dr. Oveis said that the results were preliminary.“But it looks so far like the couples who touch more are reporting more satisfaction in the relationship,” he said.

Again, it’s not clear which came first, the touching or the satisfaction. But in romantic relationships, one has been known to lead to the other. Or at least, so the anecdotal evidence suggests.

2011年5月25日水曜日

The Project べびー福 / Baby-fuku : Donation of used baby's clothing.

We collect used baby's and kid's clothing in sizes from 0 till 3 years old, then provide direct delivery to mothers who live in devastated areas and developing countries.

Also we are truly appreciating small donations what covers a delivery cost and a new baby goods purchase.

A used baby clothing: some people will say: “It is just a trash”, some people think: “It is smart way to reuse it”, but for some of people it could very supportive.

Our babies have a magic feature: they grow up as yeast dough. Just couple months ago your baby was born and now you need to have a shopping, perhaps third times already.
How about those stuffs what have been used less than five times only?
Should its be sent to trash box?
We do not think so and there are several reasons, why:

First of all, if they still look like as new and in good quality it better to be reuse. Japanese language has very meaningful word: “mottainai”, what laterally “sad for waste of something”. In reality, to throw almost not used clothing out IS mottainai. We suggest: do not do like this.

Then, a family budget could be rescue by getting used baby clothing approach. To get a dozen new T-shirts and panties each month is really could crush a financial stability even a wealthy people.

The most important to understand, then at any time and any part of our world can happen difficulties, troubles or even a disaster, That can heard each individual and turn persons to change their life style and needs. Furthermore, for some of people daily surviving is their life style for many years. Many of these people are mothers. Each day in the motherhood they have to manage ways and sources to obtain food and clothes for their baby. To have some shirts, panties, hats and shoes as a gift could be supportive a lot.

To donate used clothing is absolutely not a bad manner, it is smart way to conserve resources and support people in their needs.

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『べびー福』は、０歳から３歳までの子供服を集め、発展途上国や災害地の子供たちへ届けるプロジェクトです。

人によっては「そんなの、ゴミ同然。そんなものを人にあげるなんて。」と思うかもしれません。
でも中には「子供服を使い回すのは、賢い活用法！！」と思う方もいるでしょう。

０歳から３歳までの子供たちは私たちが予測もつかない様なスピートで成長します。
特に最初の１ヶ月では、出生時の体重の1.5倍も大きくなるのです！！
お祝いでもらったおしゃれ着が、５回も袖を通さないうちに小さくなってしまった。。。なんてことも。
また、外出機会の少ない月齢では、洋服の痛みも少なく、靴などは新品同然の物もあるでしょう。

これらを着られなくなったからと言ってゴミ箱に捨ててしまうのはもったいない！！

子供の成長に合わせてサイズのあった洋服を着せることは、子供たちが自由に活発に動き回ることができます。
運動能力や精神的に発達していくためにも、とても大切な事です。
また、お母さんやお父さんも、子供に可愛い洋服を着せる楽しみは育児の疲れを癒す助けになるでしょう。

お金のかかる妊娠、出産、育児です。
しかし、必要不可欠な子供服にかかる費用を削減出来れば、食事や教育などに予算をあてられるでしょう。

古着を活用することは決してマナー違反ではありません。
『服』を賢く活用して、子供、お母さん、お父さんに『福』が届くことを願っています。

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2011年4月14日木曜日

The Shikyu-chan is a messenger.

This character, the Shikyu-chan is already famous. It is 49 mm at length and very comfortable to be hanged up on a cell phone or a bag, as initially it became popular in Japan, then around the world.

Even it looks like as a pretty toy, what safe to be named “kawaii” in Japanese language, but basically it is really more. The Shikyu-chan is a messenger.

The messenger of:

- acceptance of others unique differences,

- sympathy,

- kindness,

- heart warmth,

- support and care,

- soul affinity.

The Shikyu-chan is the symbol of acceptance and the messenger of our kindness and warmth.

So small cute kawaii item is caring an important message what needs to be shared, isn’t it wonderful?!

Get the Shikyu-chan and give it to your soul mate, then this person will be connected to you and feels your care and participation when will hold the Shikyu-chan in the palm. She or he will never be lonely any more, but with you.

The Shikyu-chan is a perfect gift for near people:

- your friends or classmates;

- boy and girlfriend;

- your life partner;

- your kids;

- your parents and grand-parents,

with your acceptance of other’s unique differences, sympathy, soul affinity, kindness, support and care.

The Shikyu-chan is an appropriate gift for people in sorrow after their loss of lowed one:

- parents who lose their unborn or newborn baby;

- parents who lose tragically their kid;

- woman who keeps hope to get her own baby;

- people who lose their life partner, parents or relatives;

- owner who lose their lovely pet,

with your understanding, heart warmth, support and care, willingness to share their pain with.

2011年4月1日金曜日

Medical staff and bereavement parents. The story.

"...She was 28 years old, and pregnant of discordant twins.

In 32 weeks of gestation we diagnosed that the small twin as IUGR (intra-uterine growth restriction), but the other twin fine.

After I explained twins status to the parents, I showed the decision to end this pregnancy by Cesarean for rescuing the small twin in34 weeks. Because it was only 32 weeks, we had decided to prolong 2 more weeks for fetal maturation. Also I was obligated to have a business trip for 1 week (during 33rd weeks of her pregnancy), so it was an additional reason to delay the Cesarean.

Unfortunately, early morning on just 33 weeks of gestation, I got the phone call from hospital with bad news: the small twin had suddenly died. It happened exactly one day before my business trip…I was really shocked.
I apologized for the fact that I could not predict with the mother, father and other relative: My business trip seemed to them the main reason to delay the Cesarean and, logically, the main reason of one twin’s death. They believed if the Cesarean was done in 32 weeks both of twins baby could have been saved.

I was worried if I could make the right decision at that time. I evaluated survived twin’s health and I proposed we could wait till 34 weeks from medical point. If it was possible to wait, I did not want to detach the dead baby soon from mother. but… she was having the dead baby inside and I was obligated to be of city by business. Though, over this discussion we took the risk to wait until 34th weeks for be sure about safe of the alive fetus better.

Furthermore, she stopped to talk.

From that time on, the hospital staff has been keeping to exam regularly the heart beating of only survived twin, then happened unfortunate accident; one of doctor who was not familiar with the situation make an effort to exam the second fetus’s heart beating. It has unpredictable effect; she felt revive and start to communicate. She realize that she is caring on still two her babies inside even on of them is not alive any more.

In contrary to the mother, this accident had made the father very mad. From this moment they went by the different roads.

One week later I was back to the hospital. Surprisingly, spontaneous delivery has begun the day. I felt as if both baby would have waited for me to come back. First came out the healthy baby-boy who had been immediately place in an infant incubator to pediatrician sector. He was fine.

Then it was the time to come out of the dead baby. In the delivery room, there were mother in labor, nurse and me only. It was proper company of people who wanted to meet this baby and share own sad feeling. The mother had enough time with dead baby to hold, to cry and to say goodbye.

The father was keeping his anger and avoided spending time with dead baby. By this reason we had a lot of time to communicate with the bereavement mother.

This kind and supportive treat helped to the mother passed relatively smooth the anger stage of her grief via mostly asking a questions and taking about the event.

But the father escaped to talk in a normal way with us, did not visit the hospital during the mother was staying there and, did not emotionally support her. They lost communication way, so about two year after got divorce. …”

Dr. Masato Takeuchi, MD, PhD,

Tokyo Humanized Care Center

2011年3月27日日曜日

Look into the baby's death - Perinatal grief and learn from experiences of parents.

赤ちゃんの死へのまなざし　―両親の体験談から学ぶ周産期のグリーフケア [単行本]

by 竹内正人 (著), 井上文子 (著), 井上修一 (著), 長谷川充子 (著)

The couple who had experience of baby loss expressed their feeling about the event. As it is naturally, the mother and the father had some differences in grieving what described very detailed in this book. Parents did not feel they were well cared from medicals at the tragic moment. Medical staffs as well feel not good about less care, feel guilty, but do not have time to change this attitude and just keep going ahead over the event. Nurse, who was involved also explained her experience and suggested how to establish good relationship with the parents in grief. The interview of Dr. Takeuchi Masato contains of suggestion what is the easier way for medical staff to provide professional care in a perinatal loss event. This book is able to direct of nurse to take care on this type of patient in right way. It helps for medical staff to understand themselves, first of all; to see what they are for parents in grief, and to discover the way how to grow up as professionals. We recommend this book for all medical staff , especially who involved in perinatal and pediatric care.

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miscarriage and your feelings: Anger.

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the "Shikyu-chan" was “holding my hand” in March 11th

Battling the self-blame of infertility

the most basic human needs: love, kindness, cooperation and caring

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